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Nation Spouse Day: Three Books Every Couple Should Read

Buy these three books and go through them with your spouse!

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As we celebrate National Spouse Day, here are three great books that every couple should read. They are The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, His Needs, Her Needs, by Willard Harley Jr, and Love and Respect by Emmerson Eggerichs.

Excerpted from the book, Better the Second Time, which can be found here.

The Five Love Languages is a book that teaches you the five basics “languages” that you can learn to “speak” to your spouse to meet his or her needs.

His Needs, Her Needs is a list of the five strongest emotional needs of both men and women in relationships.

Love and Respect is based on the theory that a woman most wants love from her husband and a man most wants respect from his wife.

As I go through my thoughts on each of these books, I think it will give us plenty to think about as it relates to how we can help meet the deepest needs of our spouse. Now, one might think, It isn’t my job to meet my spouse’s needs. He/She should be fulfilled in and of him/herself. This is faulty thinking and the kind that may leave your spouse feeling empty and contribute to the breakdown of your marriage.

The marriage relationship is obviously a unique relationship. It is the closest of all human relationships. There is something mystical and spiritual about it. It is a union. Historical Christian teaching has used the term describing how a couple “becomes one flesh.”

When we commit to another person we are called upon to take seriously how we may meet one another’s needs. No person is an island unto himself. We all have needs and many of those needs cannot be met by ourselves. In marriage we have that special relationship with another person who can bring fulfillment to those needs, like two pieces of the puzzle coming together to complete the whole picture.

As you go through these lists, take time to read and contemplate them. Talk to your spouse about them. In the case of The Five Love Languages, figure out which one or two are your spouse’s and learn to communicate to them using their love language.

Since an amazing marriage is predicated on ever-growing people, learning and applying what they learn, I would encourage you to get one or all of these books and go through them with your spouse.

With that, let’s take a look at the principles of each of these three books.

The Five Love Languages

Chapman’s book says that there are certain things that speak to our spouse. These are the love languages that make our spouse feel loved and cared for. The languages that Chapman writes about are:

Gift-Giving
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Physical Touch

As you read through those can you see how one or two of those might be more important to you than the others? The same is true for your spouse. The importance of this is that when we speak our spouse’s love language is when they feel best. Of course different people have different languages. One issue that arises is that often one spouse will speak the language they like best but it isn’t the language that their spouse enjoys the most. You may love words of affirmation and so you speak words of affirmation to your spouse when in fact they would feel much more love, care, and attention if you would clean out the dishwasher (an act of service).

One of the most powerful dynamics of my and Denise’s relationship is that we share the same top two love languages. That makes it easy for us to speak the other’s language. Both Denise and I have Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch (which includes but is not limited to sexual touch) as our top two. So if you could hear our conversations and read our texts to each other, you would see a lot of affirmation of one another. She and I are regularly articulating something positive we feel about the other person and that keeps us emotionally filled and satisfied. We both gain energy from physical touch. Holding hands, a soft touch of the other’s back, a quick neck rub and the like are simple ways throughout the day to speak the other’s love language and meet their needs.

Chapman talks about keeping your spouse’s emotional tank full. When we speak our spouse’s love language they feel loved and come to a more fulfilling emotional state about themselves, you, and your marriage.

Let’s take a look at each one and see what they mean.

Gift-Giving. Some people just love to get gifts. When you give a gift to them, they get excited. They love the whole process, the surprise, the unwrapping, everything. These don’t have to be big gifts either. They can be small gifts. Whether it is a small, inexpensive item you know they will love and use or something expensive, a real luxury, it doesn’t matter. A gift says that you were thinking of them, you know what they like and you took the time to go and get it for them and deliver it to them.

Quality Time. There is time and there is quality time. Just because you spent the afternoon alone together in the house doesn’t mean that you had quality time. Quality time is time spent together with your spouse in a way that he or she considers it high value. It means giving your spouse your undivided attention. It means talking, listening and really communicating. It could also mean that if your spouse loves riding bikes that you take a few hours and go riding with them. Whether you talk or not during the trip, your spouse will consider it quality time that you went with them. Now my soapbox: Meals should be quality time! Put down your phone, enjoy your food and the company of your spouse! Unless you are rushing to get to the kids game and your dinner consists of fast food eaten while driving, meals are supposed to be quality time and represent an everyday opportunity to have some.

Words of Affirmation. There is an old proverb that says that the “tongue has the power of life and death.” Our words are powerful. So true, especially for those who have words of affirmation as their love language. These words can be expressed in various ways, but they should be expressed regularly. Denise loves a small post-it note on the mirror that says, “I love you,” or “You are beautiful.” Those are words of affirmation. When Denise and I were living halfway across the country from each other when we first started dating, I would try to text her during the day what I loved about her or admired her for. That is key: Try to think about what you love about your spouse and communicate those to your spouse. Guys, “You are beautiful” is great and no woman will ever turn down hearing it, but we need to work harder and expand our words of praise. Things that cover the gamut like “I really appreciate what a hard worker you are,” “You are such an amazing and patient mother,” and “You did such an incredible job organizing that school fundraiser. I’m so proud of you,” will go a long way. Ladies, telling your man “I appreciate how you provide for our family,” “I think you are so funny (or intelligent or whatever),” and “I love how you make me feel when you are making love to me. You’re an incredible lover,” will make your husband feel like he can take on the world!

Acts of Service. Serving others means that you are thinking of ways to help them. How can you serve and help your spouse? Obviously doing chores is an easy answer. Unload the dishwasher, take out the garbage, clean the barbecue or shovel the driveway. But what else? Maybe get up early and make your spouse’s lunch and pack it for him or her. If your spouse normally pays the bills at the end of the month but dreads it, grab them a couple of days early and do your thing with the checkbook. Tell your spouse to sleep in and you will take the kids to school today. Guys, cook your wife a meal. And I don’t mean a romantic meal which will send the message that you are looking for a little action later on. Just get home early and cook a meal so that when she and the kids get home, she doesn’t have that burden on her. When she walks in, hand her a glass of wine, have the TV turned on to HGTV and tell her dinner will be ready in 20 minutes.

Physical Touch. It probably doesn’t need to be said since we’re all adults here, but physical touch is not exclusively sexual touch. In fact, non sexual touch will go a long way toward making sure that when you are engaged in sexual touch, the fires are burning bright. When you wake up in the morning, reach over and rub your spouse’s back before getting out of bed to jump in the shower. Sneak up behind your wife in the kitchen and give her a hug from behind. Give your wife a foot rub while you are watching TV. Run your hands through your husband’s hair while he’s on a phone call. Hold hands while you are walking through the mall. Put your arm around your spouse at the football game. Any time you can share a short, meaning moment of physical touch, it will make your spouse feel loved.

The keys here are:

Know your spouse’s love language
Make the effort to speak your spouse’s love language on a daily basis.

His Needs, Her Needs

His Needs, Her Needs is one of the first marriage/relationship books I ever read and it is a good one. It was published quite some time ago and it can feel a little dated but the principle lessons are very good. First, you have to start with the premise that men and women are different, so if you don’t believe that, you may have a problem with it, but I’ll guess that most of us are on the same page with that concept.

Harley describes the five general and basic needs of each of the sexes as this:

Her Needs:

Affection
Intimate Conversation
Honesty and Openness
Financial Support
Family Commitment

His Needs:

Sexual fulfillment
Recreational Companionship
Physical Attractiveness
Domestic Support
Admiration

Let’s take a deeper look at each.

Hers:

Affection. Men, your wife needs affection. Affection doesn’t mean sex, although that is part of it. She needs your soft touch. She needs you to hug her and hold her. Reach out and hold her hand while you’re driving. Touch her softly. Tickle her a little bit (if she doesn’t mind being tickled). Run your fingers through her hair while you’re watching TV together. Speak lovingly. Listen intently. Tell her you love her.

Intimate Conversation. “How was your day?” isn’t intimate conversation. You have small talk and chit chat and then you have deep, meaningful conversation that connects a husband and wife at a deeper level. Women love to talk about how they feel and what they think. They love to talk about your relationship. Engage her in this and make that deep connection, meeting her need. Men tend to like to keep conversations short and at a 30,000 foot level. Your wife will love it if you will set aside some time to have deeper, more meaningful conversation where your attention is focused on her.

Honesty and Openness. We men, as a general stereotype, are not big talkers. We aren’t very open. We don’t like transparency because it makes us feel vulnerable. But our wives value those things. And frankly, we men need to learn to become more open and honest. One note about honesty. It doesn’t mean that we aren’t honest, but more that we aren’t candidly honest. Not that we lie to our wives but that we omit information and just don’t like to talk about it. Your wife is wired differently and by engaging her in these kind of interactions, you will connect with her in a deeper way because you will be meeting her needs.

Financial Support. This is one of those that some may say is culturally irrelevant from when this book was originally written, but it still holds true in the vast majority of homes. Many women today are very self-sufficient and don’t need a man’s money. For example, Denise has a very high paying career and made more than enough money to provide for her home and children before I met her. She was completely self-sufficient. A woman does, however, want a man to be there for the family financially. If the wife stays home with the kids, she feels secure if her husband is providing well for the needs of the family. When he isn’t, she feels a lack of security and feels in need. Unfortunately, there are too many men who don’t work hard, make poor financial decisions and take away that feeling of financial support from their wives.

Family Commitment. Many men view themselves as a provider and that is important, but all too often, when a woman says she doesn’t feel loved, a husband will say, “What do you mean? I go off every day, working sixty hours a week so I can provide this home, take you on vacation and pay for the kids to go to soccer camp.” That’s not what she’s saying. What she is saying is she wants you to be her husband, not just her provider. She wants you to be the children’s dad, not just the one who pays for their school clothes. She wants you to be there and to be present mentally and emotionally when you are there.

His:

Sexual fulfillment. Of course this is a broad, sweeping generality, but statistically it is relevant that men want sex more often than their wives. This isn’t a right or a wrong but simply a fact of biology for most couples. I’ve worked closely with thousands of men over the years and the number one complaint about wives is that they don’t want to have sex as much as the husband. Ladies, I’d like you to think about something. When your husband committed to you he committed to having sex with only you. When you realize that he is off the market it means that this need can only be met by you. One of the top ways you can meet his needs is to make sure that he is fulfilled in this area.

Recreational Companionship. Most men I have worked with would love to have a spouse who enjoyed doing things together with them. Common interests are powerful in a relationship. Yes, men want alone time with their male friends but they also have a strong desire to have time just “kicking around” or doing an activity together. Working to find some activity that you both enjoy so you can be his recreational companion will be much appreciated by your husband.

Physical Attractiveness. Let’s start with a given that your husband already thinks you are attractive or he most likely wouldn’t have pursued you in the first place. This isn’t about being a bombshell. It is about doing the most with what you have. It means keeping yourself up. It means being fit and living a healthy lifestyle. It means that you don’t spend all day, every day in sweatpants and a t-shirt. Men love pretty things, so make yourself pretty. Do your nails and hair. Smell good. Again, this doesn’t have to be a huge production. Taking a little time each day to put some finishing touches on will be very attractive to your husband.

Domestic Support. This may be the one that causes the most controversy or feels the most out of date in a day and age where many homes are dual income homes. The man and woman both go off to work and it isn’t like the wife is staying at home all day and has the time and responsibility to do all the domestic chores. That being said, it is important to have discussions and come to agreements on responsibilities. One thing to note on this ladies, is that your husband probably wasn’t taught all of the skill sets needed to do some of the things needed around the house. Traditionally, these things were passed on from mother to daughter and many sons weren’t even taught how to do them. Ironing shirts comes to mind. So one thing you can do if splitting chores, is to show him how to do it and encourage him when he does it right.

Admiration. Women, if you only knew how much your husband thrives on your admiration! Actually, he lives for it. Your husband, even if he would never articulate it this way, wants to be that knight in shining armor for you. He wants to be a man who you look at and are impressed by. One of the most powerful things you can do for your husband is to express your admiration for him. Take him in your arms, look him right in the eye and tell him what you admire about him. And if you want to put the admiration factor on steroids, tell other people what you admire about him! When the two of you are out with a group of people, sing his praises to the group. His spirit will soar, I promise you!

Love and Respect

Love and Respect is a very simple concept and it is perhaps the best marriage book, or book on male-female relationships I’ve read in a very long time specifically because it nails the two primary needs a man and a woman in relationships have. The author is a Christian counselor and one day passed over a bible verse that he had read many times over. This time something jumped out to him. The passage said that husbands should love their wives and wives should respect their husbands. The author wondered for the first time why it didn’t just say that husbands and wives should love each other. Why the different instruction for each spouse.

After doing extensive research, he found out that women value being and feeling loved the most while men value being respected the most. What he found out was that men need to love their wives – and show it – and women need to respect their husbands – and show it!

He describes a cycle. The cycle can either be good, or it can be “energizing.” A good cycle has the husband loving his wife. In return, she feels loved and shows her husband the respect he desires. Feeling respected, he shows her his love even more… and the cycle continues.

Then there is the crazy cycle. The husband doesn’t feel respected so he withdraws and doesn’t demonstrate his love for his wife. Feeling unloved, she shows him disrespect…. And the cycle continues.

The author says the key is to recognize when you are on the crazy cycle and to get off that cycle and onto the energizing cycle by making purposeful and unconditional demonstrations of love and respect. Someone has to break the cycle.

So, if a wife treats her husband with disrespect, he is going to feel hurt and will be tempted to withdraw. That will only perpetuate the crazy cycle so he must instead show her unconditional love and love her in spite of how he feels. That will fill her need for love and will move her toward showing him respect, putting them on the good cycle instead of the crazy cycle. And of course the reverse could be demonstrated with the roles reversed. When feeling unloved, the wife would seek to show unconditional respect and bring her husband to the place of showing love again and getting them on the energizing cycle.

You can see from the overview of these three books that the key element is to look at your spouse and see what really makes him or her tick. Whether it is one of his or her love languages, or his or her needs, or simply the love or respect that he or she desires, we as their spouse can meet those needs purposefully, helping our spouse to be fulfilled and giving us the enjoyment of being in a more loving and happy marriage.

I would encourage you to buy these three books and go through them with your spouse. At the very least, buy one of them that seems most interesting and dig through it and then focus on your part of the equation. And if you are on your second marriage, be sure to get Better the Second Time! Click HERE.

Chris is one of the World's Top 50 Speakers, member of the Motivational Speakers Hall of Fame, and one of Inc. Magazine's Top 100 Leadership Speakers. He considers it a privilege to be able to speak to people, help them lead successful lives, become extraordinary leaders and, masterful salespeople. Chris has authored twenty books with three million copies in print in 13 languages and over 450 articles on success, leadership, sales and motivation.



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I Refuse to Play Make Believe Any Longer

There are dozens of examples of things that are being pushed on society that we all know that they are entirely untrue, and yet they continue. They are make believe issues.

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“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” I Corinthians 13: 11

If you are a parent or grandparent, you have probably at one point or another had one of your daughters or granddaughters come up and ask you if you would like to dress like a princess and have a tea party. Or perhaps your son or grandson has asked to dress up and play Cowboys and Indians. And of course we all did (to be clear though, I did not dress up as a princess). At some point, however, those children stop playing make believe. Or at least they should. Imagine if your 40 year old daughter came out dressed like a princess and asked you for a tea party. It would be even more disturbing if she dressed like a princess every day and went to work that way, demanding that everyone call her “Princess.” Or if your 40 year old son wore a sheriff’s uniform to work each day. We would say that something was a little “off.”

Unfortunately we have tens of millions of people still playing make believe, pretending that something is true when it absolutely isn’t. The simplest example on this is this whole idea that a teenage boy can declare himself a girl and now join the high school girls track team. This requires everyone around him to suspend belief and pretend that he isn’t a boy. In fact, they DEMAND that we do so. Even when it is patently obvious that it is simply not true. Think about it. If they can make you go along with the idea that a human body with a penis is actually a girl, in spite of all science saying otherwise, they can make you believe anything. The make believe is designed to destroy the concept of absolute truth. (And let me say right here, so as not to be accused of “transphobia,” that I believe every transexual has the exact same rights as any other American citizen. Nothing less but nothing more either. They can do what they want to their bodies and call themselves whatever they want. I’m just not going to play along with their desire to claim something that isn’t true.)

And this is just one example. In preparing to write this article, I asked my Facebook friends what other games of “make believe” we are being demanded to play. Here are some of their answers (You will note that I have GREAT Facebook friends):

That we canceled the Pipeline project for the good of the climate but it’s ok that foreign countries produce our oil (like we don’t share all the same climate!)

Just because socialism has failed everywhere else doesn’t mean it won’t work here, because we’ll do it “right.”

You can sit inches from someone on an airplane for four hours, yet it is dangerous to not “social distance” while deplaning.

A higher minimum wage will lead to more opportunity and prosperity and not inflation.

That people crossing into the country illegally should not be referred to as illegal.

That the left can destroy monuments, burn property, destroy businesses, take over municipal and federal buildings but it is called a protest.

How more gun control leads to less violence.

That late term abortion is ever necessary to save a woman’s life.

That we should not defend our property, because the thieves need it more than we do.

That Trump is a white supremacist or a Russian asset.

That at elementary age children are old enough to give sexual consent.

That Democrats are for the common man.

That personal wealth is built on the backs of the working poor.

That young black men – or any race for that matter – are being hunted down in the streets by police.

That two million poor immigrants can be admitted into the country to be fully supported at public expense and it will have no economic impact on the people who are already here.

That science is an oracle with all the answers instead of a process for exploring questions.

That banning plastic bags and straws, particularly in cities hundreds of miles inland, will save the lives of sea turtles.

That you are selfish if you support capitalism and want to see our country prosper.

That requiring ID to vote disenfranchises minorities. The implication being that minorities just aren’t smart enough to know how to get a driver’s license or personal ID.

We need TSA security and proper identification at our airports, but not at our borders or at polling places.

That just because I was born white, I’m automatically racist.

The X and Y chromosome are irrelevant when determining male or female.

Extended lockdowns were necessary or effective.

There you have it. Those were generated from just one Facebook post. I am sure that you may be able to come up with even more. But the point is that there are dozens of examples of things that are being pushed on society that we all know that they are entirely untrue, and yet they continue. They are make believe issues.

The question is why do they continue living in their fantasy land? I think they continue because we play along. They pretend and we go right along and pretend with them.

Well folks, I’m through.

I am by profession, a speaker. I have written 22 books, I am in the Motivational Speakers Hall of Fame, and have spoken all over the world at conferences. I was having a Facebook discussion around the way people are now choosing pronouns that are not accurate at all. For example, a man now requires you to call him “her” or “she.” It is not true and it is therefore not even proper english. Especially when that man wants to be called “they.” It is absurd. One man or one woman is a single, not a plural. In this conversation a friend of mine from the National Speakers Association declared that most corporations are moving this way and if they require me to call their Male CEO “her” or she” or “they,” that he would do so.

That was the straw that broke the camel’s back for me. Why that? I don’t know, but it did. I said that I am done playing make believe. Sure, if their male CEO wants to be called Sheryl or Margaret, I would be happy to do so (although I would snicker in my head every time I did). But I will not play make believe and call him a woman.

In fact, I won’t be playing make believe in anything, ever again. You can pretend whatever you want. I won’t be joining you. Instead, I would encourage you to stop pretending – or even just being silent when they pretend – because allowing them to pretend without speaking up and challenging it has consequences. How bizarre is the make believe we’re talking about? Consider this:

The story I’m about to tell you is from a friend of ours. It happened to her. This is not a secondhand story.

She was at a major clothing retail store and was going to go into the dressing room to try on some clothes. When the person who disinfects the room after someone uses it came out, she started moving toward the dressing room but was told to stop. She was told she had to wait for two minutes.

When she asked why, she was told that it took a couple of minutes for the coronavirus to fall off the surfaces and drift to the floor. Apparently, if she went in too early, she might bump into it in the air and catch the virus. (No mention of whether or not you can catch it on the soles of your feet)

You can’t make this stuff up. And I’m not.

What have we come to?

Until those of us who are concerned with the truth stand up and fight in the marketplace of ideas, we we are doomed because there are enough uninformed and gullible people who will follow right along with the make believe fairy tales being thrust upon the masses. We cannot allow ourselves to be canceled or dismissed.

America was built on the free flow of information and the exchange of ideas. America is a place where everyone’s voice can and should be heard and the goal is that the truth will win out. We must battle for the truth and make sure that every step of the way it is heard.

One of the greatest speeches ever given in a film was Al Pacino‘s character in Any Given Sunday. Right before a big game he tells his team that football and life is a game of inches. You have to battle for every single inch you take. The other team is going to battle fiercely, and we see that each and every day as they flood the airwaves with lies, half truths, misinformation, and disinformation. All of it make believe in order to deceive the masses. We must battle them every single inch of the way. For if we do not, eventually we will lose.

Today is the day to make your voice heard. The left RELIES on your apathy. I get it. I know how difficult it is when somebody is saying something stupid to open your mouth and raise your voice and say the truth. It is a lot easier to just roll your eyes and consider them a moron.

We must make our voices heard. Quit going along with their fairy tales and speak up!

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How To Live The Best Christian Life

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What does it mean to live well in this world? For many, they root the worldly answer to this question in vanity and materialism. Fortunately, the authority of God’s word has an answer for us. Society and sometimes our own ego’s tell us how important it is to be successful. Our modern world usually defines success as earning more money, getting a big house, a nice car, a boat, maybe even an airplane. Success could mean climbing the promotion ladder at your job, or having a very successful business. For many, they define success in how many “followers” or “likes” they have on their social media platform. Yet, as people gain these successes, many of them are searching still for more happiness and meaning.

Americans of all economic backgrounds are left with a void. According to a Time Magazine story, suicide rates are higher than at any other time since World War I. A Harvard report informs us of an “Astounding increase in antidepressant use by Americans.” This type of sad news informs us that even as citizens of the richest nation in the world, more cars, boats, bigger houses, career advances, etc…. are not enough to make us happy. So what can people do to discover fulfillment and success independent of the material? Luckily, God’s word provides us with the answer. The wonderful youtube channel, The Bible Project, does an excellent job of providing succinct overviews of each book of the Bible. Their take on Ecclesiastes is an instructive guide to aid us in how to live the best Christian life.

The Book of Ecclesiastes explains three observations about our world. The first is father time:

Generations come, and generations go,
but the earth remains forever.
The sun rises and the sun sets,
and hurries back to where it rises.
The wind blows to the south
and turns to the north;
round and round it goes,
ever returning on its course…
No one remembers the former generations,
and even those yet to come
will not be remembered
by those who follow them. – Ecclesiastes 1 ( 4-6, 11) (NIV)

In the grand expanse of the universe, we are just a speck. Everything that is so important to us right now: our careers, our bank accounts, our cars, our “successes” mean nothing in the big picture of God’s eternal plan. Our earthly existence is just a quick flash. A small drop in an enormous ocean of time.

The second observation form Ecclesiastes is that we will all die and return to dust and that our concerns while here on earth are relatively meaningless.
Surely the fate of human beings is like that of the animals; the same fate awaits them both: As one dies, so dies the other. All have the same breath; humans have no advantage over animals. Everything is meaningless. All go to the same place; all come from dust, and to dust all return. -Ecclesiastes (19-21) (NIV)

The third observation we learn from Ecclesiastes is that life is random. :

The race is not to the swift
or the battle to the strong,
nor does food come to the wise
or wealth to the brilliant
or favor to the learned;
but time and chance happen to them all.
Moreover, no one knows when their hour will come. Ecclesiastes 9, 11-12 (NIV)

The lesson here is that life is way too complex for us to try and control and attempting to do so sets us up for failure and disappointment. These three observations can make life seem pretty dark and pointless. The author explains that everything in life is hevel. This is a Hebrew word meaning vapor or smoke. And like smoke, life can look like one thing, but quickly change into another form. You can reach out and try to grab (control) both smoke and life to no avail.

Modern biblical translations miss the smoke metaphor and usually translate hevel to the word meaningless. However, the author of Ecclesiastes isn’t suggesting that life has no meaning, but that instead, life can be unclear (like smoke). Just like standing in a smoky room, life can be confusing, stressful, and it’s difficult to know what lies in front of you. Therefore, while it may not always guarantee short-term success in our time on earth, we should live in fear of the Lord and have faith because his plan is eternal and beyond our comprehension.

The lesson of Ecclesiastes is that since we have no control in life, we should focus on the one thing that we do have control over, our attitude. Real success is accepting this lack of control and appreciating not the material, but the intangible things in life: holding hands with a loved one, sitting out in the sun on a warm day, your bare feet on the beach, a great meal with friends and loved ones. We should learn to enjoy these good simple moments, and the bad, because while they are fleeting, they are all gifts from a loving God.

The good times and the bad, the money, the jobs, our health, our friends, and even our loved one’s will all come and go. If we can teach ourselves to appreciate the ups and the downs of this rollercoaster of life and understand that God is the master of the entire amusement park, then learning to enjoy the ride is the accurate definition of success. This is how we can learn to live our best Christian life.

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