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In What Do You Believe? (1)

We each have the freedom to choose the life that works for us without inhibiting others

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Jim Cathcart has written a sterling piece which follows below. Jim, who I’ve know since 1984, grew up in Arkansas, worked in Oklahoma, and struck gold in California. He became an authority in personal development, a popular professional speaker, and an author of several successful books on sales, business strategy, and career achievement.

Here is Part 1 from his brilliant article on the power of our beliefs and belief systems, with Part 2 and Part 3 appearing on Monday:

Nobody is without a religion, nobody (a paraphrase of Jewish philosopher Dennis Prager). All people have a belief system. That system tells them what is good and right, and what is bad and wrong. All belief systems have “sins” too, things you are condemned for doing or not doing.

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Christianity has the shortest list of sins, but Christianity forgives. Yes, it’s true.

Accusatory and Unforgiving

In the religion of ‘Woke’ supremacy, an ever-growing list of sins are unforgivable. In fact, many such sins ‘are stamped into your being’ without your awareness and cannot be resolved, removed, or fully atoned for, such as ‘white privilege’ or ‘systemic racism.’

Law enforcement, the U.S. Constitution, mathematics, “flesh tone” band aids, personal compliments, and chivalry, of late, are inherently bigoted concepts of white supremacy or sexism. The ‘Woke’ seek to erase history so that only they get attention and so that now is the only time that matters.

While legions of the challenges facing humanity were resolved before the members of the ‘Woke’ mob we were born, they demand that we start again, since everyone who preceded us were stained by the wrong belief system. So, whatever our forebearers learned or discovered or developed, or gave their life for, is to be ignored.

Are books part of history? If they were written before now they are based on the past, so all books should be burned or banned. (Does this sound like Nazi Germany?)

Wrong on So Many Levels

The first clue that the ‘Woke’ are on the wrong path is this: They respond to challenges or questions by making personal attacks on the challengers, or labeling them as not worthy of being heard. When ideas can’t be openly debated and discussed then something is askew. Good ideas can stand up to scrutiny.

Predictably, some people will attack me for this article, not the ideas within it. It’s what children do when they don’t have a response. They call you names and say, “I hate you!”

Another tactic of the ‘Woke’ destructive mindset is to ignore all of what you say or do, except for the one item they feel they can attack. It’s like a pack of wolves going after a herd of elk. They don’t launch a frontal attack. They bite the hind leg of the last elk in the herd to weaken him. Then when the elk falls behind the others, the wolves surround it and kill it.

Some people will pick one item from this article and attack it, seeking to negate the entire narrative.

The Limitation of Science

‘Science-ism’ is the belief that objective reality, its measurement and explanation through the scientific process, is all that exists. Yet, science can’t explain the creation of life. Intercourse doesn’t create babies, but that’s how they are conceived. Some couples never have children. We can’t make life; we can only participate in the process.

To accept science as your belief system, you have to make up something to fill the voids, e.g. have faith in something you cannot see or explain. Even science must have faith about some things.

In the religion of Environmentalism and Climate Change, based on ‘Woke’ thinking, you are either a believer who is willing to strive to remove the stain of your existence on the earth, or you’re a denier who is not to be taken seriously and must be controlled by believers. All things end up being related to the climate.

Current White House policies reflect an enormous emphasis on the religion of Environmentalism, plus a belief that America is so wealthy we can spend all of our money on the repairs and changes that must be made, lest we all die from climate change. AOC, for example, says that we can easily afford to spend 10 trillion dollars.

The climate, however, has never witnessed a time of stasis. It has changed continually since creation. These changes go in long term cycles of 1,500 years or more. We are currently in a long-term cycle of global cooling.

In ‘climate-ism,’ human life is seen as an infection of the earth instead of the highest form of life on earth. “If there were no humans, life on earth would go on just fine.” Okay, human hater, you go first.

Belief is a Choice

The answer to the decades old question, “Why can’t we just get along?” is that some people simply won’t stop trying to control others.

You’re free to believe what you wish. You are not free to interfere with my life and the lives of others who disagree with you. If you are correct, then let’s debate the issue. Prove your case or go your own way.

We each have the freedom to choose the life that works for us without inhibiting others.

Happy Easter, Happy Spring, Happy New Year, Happy Life.

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Decrease in Marriage Continues a Spiraling Wave of Problems, and Churches are AWOL

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Over 60 years after the decline of marriage began in the 1960s due to the rise of the “free love” mentality, the results are more dismal than ever. In 1960, only 28% of adults were single. Now almost 50% of adults are single. Marriage rates are at their lowest ever in U.S. history. There are eight times more children born to unmarried parents than married. 

 

This is a problem. While progressives love to tear down the traditional nuclear family, they can’t argue with the increasingly negative facts coming out. Cohabitation arrangements break up around five times more frequently than marriages, and unplanned pregnancies occur three times more often with cohabiting couples than married couples. Unmarried couples with children are three times more likely to split up and have lower incomes. Children without fathers are more likely to suffer an “Adverse Family Event,” which is abuse, neglect or other trauma. Disregarding the old saying “Marriage tames men” is why we are seeing a spike in bad behavior by men.

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Two authors with extensive backgrounds in marriage and the Christian church have written a book, Endgame: The Church’s Strategic Move to Save Faith and Family in America, outlining the crisis and showing how the church has failed to address it — but also providing specific solutions to fix it. “Endgame” refers to the crumbling of marriage. 

 

Co-author J.P. De Gance, a Catholic who came from the political sphere working for Americans for Prosperity, pioneered a marriage relationship project called Culture of Freedom — later rebranded as Communio —  which had tremendous results. He launched it in several cities, working with churches and faith-based organizations. In Jacksonville, Florida, which had dismal marriage rates, divorces fell 24% after the three-year project, which focused on 58,912 couples.

 

Similarly, John Van Epp, an evangelical relationship expert, ran his own Christian marriage relationship service, Love Thinks. In one area in Indiana that he focused on, divorce rates dropped 20% over 10 years. 

 

What the authors found is that churches are lacking in marriage ministry. Three out of four churches don’t provide any substantive relationship courses or resources for married couples. And even though singles make up almost 50% of heads of households, more than 90% of churches don’t have an adult singles ministry. 

 

What should be most alarming for Christians is the decline of relationship health is now the most significant factor in disrupting a relationship with Jesus. This is why church attendance is at its lowest rate ever on record in the U.S., 47%. In 2000, it was 70%. Church attendance is largely determined by one variable — parental marriage. Both children with unmarried parents and divorced parents were equally less likely to attend church.

 

Marriage crumbled because of the decoupling of sex, romantic partnerships and parenting. Today, the majority of couples have sex before starting a relationship. The authors point to online dating as one of the culprits — it’s made it easy to leave a relationship the instant a problem arises, because you can find a new romantic interest right away.

 

They found a correlation between atheism and lack of married parents. Millennials who were the least emotionally interested in attending church were also the least likely to report having a positive relationship with their parents. The 30 most well-known atheists in the world had a defective relationship with their fathers. 

 

Progressives may pretend that Christians are no better off than the rest of the population, but the authors found that churchgoing Christians have sex more frequently and are happier in their sex life than those who don’t attend. While one quarter of couples in church have a struggling marriage, 39% of couples in general do. 

 

Unfortunately, pastors don’t realize they’re not doing a good job in this area. While 93% of pastors counsel couples in crisis, 57% of them do not believe they are qualified enough. A “marriage 911” is lacking in the church. Churches spend lots of money on youth programs, but that’s not helping people stay in church. 

 

The authors say we need to go out into the community to find couples to help, not expect them to come searching and find these services. It needs to be portrayed as something everyone needs, in order not to scare people away thinking it’s only for couples who are on the verge of breaking up, otherwise people will be afraid of the stigma.

 

The authors reveal what works as successful techniques. They teach couples to address problems early on in relationships. It’s a myth that good relationships don’t require work. The “balanced relationship” is an illusion. What is normal in a good relationship is this: About the time a couple feels that they have a routine that is working for them … life comes at them fast. One of the most valuable tasks the authors have couples do is to make a top 10 list of what they think their spouse wants and needs from them.

 

Emotional intelligence, also known as emotional quotient (EQ) is key to a good marriage. This means both interpersonal, which includes communicating with your spouse, and intrapersonal, the ability to monitor your own emotions and actions. Studies of people doing tasks who have somewhat higher EQs but also somewhat lower IQs than others reveal that the former perform better, shattering our traditional views of IQ. 

 

The authors also emphasize the importance of both skills and virtues. Secular counseling focuses on skills, whereas Christian counseling tends to focus too much on just virtues. Skills include discernment, appreciation and expectation, self-control and commitment. 

 

The authors conclude by saying the church needs to make marriage ministry and relationship outreach normal. Marital problems shouldn’t be left up to social agencies to handle. The secular world is going to continue to disparage marriage and continue the downward cycle that the misnamed, so-called “free love” brings, so the church has to step up and stop the leak in the dam. 

 

 

  

 

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Seek Out the Good in Others

If you try, you can find at least one thing admirable in everyone you meet.

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Will Rogers, a political satirist, entertainer, and beloved figure in the first half of the twentieth century allegedly said, “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Many people have interpreted Will Rogers to have meant that he could find something admirable in everyone he met. So, too, can we all.

Something Admirable

Is there a co-worker with whom you have had a nasty relationship? Is there something good about this co-worker that you can draw upon, so that you can actually say something nice to him/her at your next encounter?

Is there a neighbor with whom you have had a continuing squabble? What would it do to your relationship if you sent your neighbor a card or a brief note that said something along the lines of, “I noticed how lovely your garden was the other day and wanted to let you know that I appreciate the work you’ve done in maintaining it.” Too syrupy, or, pardon the expression, too flowery?  Guess again.

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You’re on this planet for finite amount of time. Do you want to go through your life trading hostilities with people, never having the where-with-all to restore some semblance of civility to the relationship?

Finding the Good

Try thinking of and listing five people who you may not have a good relationship with but can acknowledge. Next to each person’s name, write what is good about them. Do they maintain a nice garden? Here are some ideas for you in case you’re drawing a blank. This person…

* Is kind to the receptionist at work.
* Turns assignments in on time, and hence, supports the team.
* Walks softly past your office, so as not to disturb you.
* Greets you in the morning when you arrive.
* Maintains his or her office well.

Away from work, here are some ideas for finding the good in others:
* Keeps the street in front of the yard free of debris.
* Is respectful of others’ needs for quiet.
* Dresses well.
* Has well-behaved children.
* Drives safely in the neighborhood.

If you try, you’ll find something good!

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