It is widely accepted that the absence of fathers in homes leads to many of society’s problems and dramatically increases the odds of a child growing into a dysfunctional adult. Crime statistics can be directly correlated to homes where there is no father present. Income level is not the causation, race is not the cause, parental guidance is. Kids who grow up with only their father’s guidance and nurturing are also missing a vital life component.

Absentee fathers is an epidemic among black communities in America.

Decades of policies and entitlement programs have openly discouraged dual parent homes among America’s lowest income groups. Welfare checks flowed to homes where Dad was missing. So Moms realized that it didn’t pay well to keep Dad around and fathers were evidently OK with the freedom from responsibility, at first.

If you were to conclude that fathers were more influential than mothers, you would be wrong. Just watch a male sports star who gets a moment on camera. He will almost always mouth “Hi Mom!” or thank his Mother for inspiring him.  But a mother is only half a parent, she’s the Yin and humans also need the Yang, Dad. Can a woman fill both roles? No, but she can try to and may fill part of the void. That’s a big help but not a solution. This is not just true for humans, it is present throughout nature. Testosterone and Estrogen need each other.

It is also well documented that children from families who attend church regularly are far less likely to commit crimes, drop out of school, join gangs, or cause societal problems. This is regardless of race or income level. Those who “pray together stay together.”

In the 1950s, 60s and 70s, if you misbehaved anywhere in America you would be disciplined by your Momma. They’d tell you, “If you get a spanking at school, you’ll get a worse one when you get home! Don’t misbehave.” If someone saw you doing bad things, they’d say, “Child, don’t you do that. I know your Momma.” Daddy may have been scarier when he spanked you with a belt, but Momma was terrifying with whatever discipline she wielded.

One of the best voices for integrity and black advancement in America today is Candace Owens. Many more are needed.

The following is from a recent article by author L. Todd Wood:

Skin color isn’t important. Culture is what makes the difference.

The 70’s chant “I’m Black and I’m Proud!” has been replaced by “I’m Black and You Owe Me!”

I say let’s return to the “Black and Proud” mentality.

I say it will be the Mothers who save America.

Mothers are our First Responders.

Mothers should be our nation’s first line of Law Enforcement. 

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Jim Cathcart

Jim Cathcart, CSP, CPAE is an Executive MBA Professor, Author of 21 books, Hall of Fame Professional Speaker, Top 1% TEDx video (2.4 million views), US Army veteran, Singer/Songwriter, and Lifelong Motorcyclist. He is known as "Your Virtual VP" for his Advisory/Mentor work with organizations worldwide. Based in Texas...and proud of it!

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