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How Black Mothers Will Save Our Nation

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2 years ago

May 25, 2021

It is widely accepted that the absence of fathers in homes leads to many of society’s problems and dramatically increases the odds of a child growing into a dysfunctional adult. Crime statistics can be directly correlated to homes where there is no father present. Income level is not the causation, race is not the cause, parental guidance is. Kids who grow up with only their father’s guidance and nurturing are also missing a vital life component.

Absentee fathers is an epidemic among black communities in America.

Decades of policies and entitlement programs have openly discouraged dual parent homes among America’s lowest income groups. Welfare checks flowed to homes where Dad was missing. So Moms realized that it didn’t pay well to keep Dad around and fathers were evidently OK with the freedom from responsibility, at first.

If you were to conclude that fathers were more influential than mothers, you would be wrong. Just watch a male sports star who gets a moment on camera. He will almost always mouth “Hi Mom!” or thank his Mother for inspiring him. But a mother is only half a parent, she’s the Yin and humans also need the Yang, Dad. Can a woman fill both roles? No, but she can try to and may fill part of the void. That’s a big help but not a solution. This is not just true for humans, it is present throughout nature. Testosterone and Estrogen need each other.

It is also well documented that children from families who attend church regularly are far less likely to commit crimes, drop out of school, join gangs, or cause societal problems. This is regardless of race or income level. Those who “pray together stay together.”

In the 1950s, 60s and 70s, if you misbehaved anywhere in America you would be disciplined by your Momma. They’d tell you, “If you get a spanking at school, you’ll get a worse one when you get home! Don’t misbehave.” If someone saw you doing bad things, they’d say, “Child, don’t you do that. I know your Momma.” Daddy may have been scarier when he spanked you with a belt, but Momma was terrifying with whatever discipline she wielded.

One of the best voices for integrity and black advancement in America today is Candace Owens. Many more are needed.

The following is from a recent article by author L. Todd Wood:

Do Black Lives Matter?

It is your job to determine if this is a racist rant or just a review of factual data…

WHAT IF ALL THE BLACKS SUDDENLY LEFT AMERICA, WHICH IS 13.3% OF THE TOTAL U.S.POPULATION:

Amount of people in poverty would drop – 34%,

The prison population would go down by -37%,

Welfare recipients would go down by – – – 42%,

Gang members would go down by – – – – – 53%

Chlamydia cases would go down – – – – – – 54%,

Homelessness would go down – – – – – – – -57%

Syphilis would go down – – – – – – – – – – -58%.

AIDS & HIV would go down by – – – – – – – – -65%,

Gonorrhea would go down – – – – – – – – – – -69%,

Average ACT scores would go UP – – – – – – – – 5.5 points.

Average IQ would go UP – – – – – – – – – – – – -7.4 points, putting us 3rd in the world tied with Japan,

Average SAT scores would go UP almost – – – – -100 points,

The average income for Americans would go UP over $20,000 a year,

BUT DEMOCRATS WOULD LOSE 76% OF THEIR VOTING BASE!!!

And, many criminal defense attorneys would have to find another line of work!

Yes, Black lives DO matter!

If those same black people stayed in America but changed their family and community culture then the same improvements would happen. This isn’t about race. It is about culture. Of course, Black Lives Matter. But you wouldn’t think so if you looked at it through the lens of the news media. They would lead you to believe that blacks are eternal victims and whites are eternal oppressors, period. They have no interest in solving problems, that would leave them with nothing sensational to report.

Skin color isn’t important. Culture is what makes the difference.

Blacks have broken every barrier known to man, mostly in America. Politics, entertainment, wealth, business, philosophy, education, sports, leadership, medicine, journalism, science, and name it, they have reached the top of the top in each.

But, the black subculture in America’s main cities is a culture of perpetual poverty and victimhood. Community organizers and even “reverends” like Jeremiah Wright in Chicago or Al Sharpton don’t preach the gospel of Christianity, instead they spew hatred, blame, and accusation. They don’t encourage their parishioners to become better people. Instead they cultivate a victim mindset and a “get-even” focus. Forgiveness is not taught, judgment is demanded.

The 70’s chant “I’m Black and I’m Proud!” has been replaced by “I’m Black and You Owe Me!”

The same mentality can be seen in any community where poverty has endured. White people like that have been called “White Trash”, and other races have their own special insulting names. It’s not about skin. It is about culture.

I say let’s return to the “Black and Proud” mentality.

Let’s all start taking pride again in our work, our integrity, our nation, our family, our schools, our faith, our friends, our flag, our talents, our education, and our personal behavior.

But somebody has to lead the charge. Someone has to start making church, education, good manners, cleanliness, lawfulness, respect for elders and authorities, and generosity important again.

I say it will be the Mothers who save America.

Famous motivational speaker Dr. Kenneth McFarland was once asked by an audience member, “Dr. McFarland, I’m not in business. I’m only a mother and a housewife. What good can I do?”

His response was brilliant and accurate. He said, “Madam, if you don’t do your job right, it won’t matter what the rest of us do!” All societal healing begins in the home.

Mothers are our First Responders.

They are the Emergency Medical Technicians. They are the safety officers, the counsellors, and even the community organizers. They are the primary educators, the drill sergeants, and occasionally, the jailers.

We need for Momma to get that switch down off the shelf and remind her children that they’d better “straighten up and fly right.”

We need a resurgence of discipline in the home. Don’t talk back, don’t waste food, clean up after yourself, leave things better than you found them. Do your chores. Chores and learning are your job until you are on your own. Watch out for your younger brother or sister. Take pride in your home. Help your Mother in the kitchen and around the house. Learn to be a good parent some day by watching your own parents do their best.

We need Mom and Dad to go to church every Sunday and take the kids along, like it or not…at first.

We need Mom to stand at the door and shoo away the mean kids or gang members trying to recruit Junior.

Mom needs to be the one who swats her child the instant they use profanity. Tell them to learn proper English so the rest of the world will know that you “matter.” Tell them to dress intelligently. Dress to look like you belong where you want to be, not just where you are today. Tell them to sit up straight, walk tall, look people in the eye. Say “yes sir and yes ma’am.” “Say you are sorry and mean it.” “Stop whining and solve the problem.” Teach them to shake hands and show respect to all people, especially those who don’t usually get it.

Mothers need to tell the preachers, “We come here to hear the gospel, and be inspired to be better people. If you’re not preaching Love, we’re finding another church.”

Mothers need to tell the schools, “My child isn’t learning how to live a rewarding life. Stop trying to convince them that they should never be made to feel uncomfortable! I don’t care if they are uncomfortable as long as they are learning how to make a good living and be a good citizen.”

Mothers need to smile at the police and thank them for keeping us all safe. They need to know the policeman’s name and develop trust with them. Give them a fresh baked cookie once in awhile.

Mothers should be our nation’s first line of Law Enforcement.

Tell your kids, “There will be none of my children at marches for a martyred criminal regardless how tragic their death may have been.” Tell them, “Sympathize and show respect but don’t get mad and demonstrate unless it will do some good. Screaming hatred, looting, rioting, vandalizing, attacking, these are the behaviors of criminals. And criminals belong in prison.”

“Stop listening to music that isn’t music. When it is just Hatred With A Beat, stop it! Don’t disrespect women and call them names, don’t disrespect police and call them names, don’t disrespect your own race and call us names. We don’t allow those words in this house!”

When Mothers stand up so will our Nation! Stand up for what is right. Stand up for what is good. Stand up for our Flag. Stand up for dignity, pride, and integrity. And Dads, go home and be a Father. Make America Good Again!

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Jim Cathcart

Jim Cathcart, CSP, CPAE is an Executive MBA Professor, Author of 21 books, Hall of Fame Professional Speaker, Top 1% TEDx video (2.4 million views), US Army veteran, Singer/Songwriter, and Lifelong Motorcyclist. He is known as "Your Virtual VP" for his Advisory/Mentor work with organizations worldwide. Based in Texas...and proud of it!

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Your Days Do Not Have to Race By

Much of what you experience each day, in terms of the passage of time, is based on your perception

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2 days ago

September 22, 2023

Jeff Davidson

Whenever you feel you’re racing the clock or trying to tackle too much at once, try this exercise:

Close your eyes for a minute. Imagine a pleasant scene. You might be surrounded by trees or with a loved one. It could be something from childhood. Let the emotions of that place and time pervade you. Get into it! Give yourself more than a minute for the visualization to take hold.

Open your eyes and return to what you’re doing. Whatever care or task you’re working on is not quite so bad and your pace is never quite so feverish. Realistically, much of what you experience each day, in terms of the passage of time, is based on your perception. You can slow down time if you choose.

Pause and Reflect

Imagine you’re flying on an airplane. You have a window seat, and it’s a clear day. As you gaze down to the ground below, what do you see? Life passing by. Cars the size of ants. Miniature baseball diamonds. Rivers the size of streams. There’s something about being at great heights that enables you reflect on your life.

The same phenomenon can take place from the top of a mountain or skyscraper. As often as practical things seem to be racing by too fast, seek higher ground, literally, for a clearer perspective.

If you’re among the lucky, perhaps you regularly allocate time for reflection or meditation. If you don’t, it’s no matter. There are other ways to make it all “slow down.”

After the workday, listen to relaxing music and close your eyes. A half hour of your favorite music with your eyes closed and no disturbances can seem almost endless. When you re-emerge, the rest of the day takes on a different tenor.

An effective method for slowing down time and catching up with today is periodically deleting three items from your “to do list” without doing them at all. Before you shriek, consider that much of what makes your list is arbitrary.

In most cases, eliminating three items won’t impact your career or life, except for freeing up a little time for yourself in the present.

A Change in Medium

I have long used water to reduce stress. For eleven years, I lived in a high-rise condominium in Falls Church, Virginia, complete with its own 25 meter pool. No matter how hard I worked during the day, even if I did a 6 a.m. to 6 p.m. stint, at 6:05 p.m. I was in the pool. After 30 minutes of laps, I had swum out many of the stresses and strains of the day.

Now that I live in North Carolina, more rural by comparison, I have lakes! Here I can swim for a mile in one direction and rarely encounter anyone else. Find the swimming hole nearest you!

In the Animal Kingdom

If you have a dog or cat and do not consider it a drain on your time, here’s a little something about Rover or Mittens that you may not have known. In recent years, as reported by U.S. News & World Report, scientists have found proof for what was only once suspected: Contact with animals has specific and measurable effects on both your body and mind.

The mere presence of animals can increase a sick person’s chances of survival, and has been shown to lower heart rate, calm disturbed children, and induce incommunicative people to initiate conversation!

The exact mechanisms that animals exert to affect your health and well-being are still largely mysterious. Scientists suspect that animal companionship is beneficial because, unlike human interaction (!), it is uncomplicated.

Animals are nonjudgmental, accepting and attentive; they don’t talk back, criticize, or give orders. Animals have a unique capacity to draw people out.

Even if you only have goldfish, sometimes simply staring at them in their silent world can help deaden your hectic pace.

Catching up with Today

1. Constantly read your list of priorities and goals.
2. Challenge and defeat your own ritual behavior.
3. Consider the outcome of not handling something.
4. Convincingly, but politely, say no.
5. Call rather than visit.

6. Clear your desk of all but the task at hand.
7. Clear your files of everything that can be recycled.
8. Cancel something you had already scheduled.
9. Choose from what you already have.
10. Choose to get a good night’s sleep every night.

When you consider all of the ways you add unnecessary pressures to your day, you begin to see many ways to catch up with today or, at least, with this week.

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12 Things I have Learned that Could Benefit Others

My life experiences have led me to the following observations

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2 weeks ago

September 13, 2023

Jeff Davidson

Never write-off others because they are too old, too young, too rich, too poor, or for any other superficial reason. Every person on the planet has some knowledge that could benefit others, including the people you work with everyday. You’ll be surprised by the wisdom you can gain by simply listening with a non-judgmental ear.

I could be right or I could be wrong, but my life experiences have led me to the following observations. I hope some benefit you:

Half a Dozen

1. Do not lament that you’re not smarter than you are, or that you’re not as good at something as you would like to be. You can accomplish nearly anything you want through hard work. Your skills develop over the course of your life, and you can develop new ones. Maybe your boss will foot the bill for training, or maybe you have to enroll and pay for yourself. Further, recognize the things at which you are adept and put your talents to use, rather than struggling to excel in the wrong career.

2. It is of little use to dwell on the past and wish you could change it. Making mistakes and feeling as if you’ve squandered time is a natural part of life that happens to everyone. Anew, view your youth with a healthy perspective; while you might have squandered some time, you probably also accomplished a lot and had some fun along the way.

3. Never become so caught up in dwelling on your mistakes that you fail to seize present opportunities. You have time left in your life to move on and use it productively.

4. Regard change as a recurring event. It’s a part of life and certainly part of your work. You won’t be the same person at 30 that you were at 20, or the same at February 25, 2020 that you will be at 40 or 60. Growing in all different ways is a good thing. If you went through life with the mindset of a 20 year old, you would miss a lot of the joys of adulthood. While change can be disconcerting at first, each stage of life becomes more (or at least as) enjoyable and fulfilling than the previous one.

5. Make a constant effort to grow. Challenge yourself mentally. Explore different means of spirituality. Place yourself in new social situations. Unfamiliar scenarios are usually a little frightening at first but, with time, the unfamiliar becomes the familiar, and you’re glad you took the chance. Move out of your comfort zone and explore.

6. Stay flexible. In our rapidly changing society, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by all the technological innovations and information you think you need to absorb in order to function productively at work and even at home. Rest assured that everyone feels the same way. Remaining flexible is key to maintaining productivity. Find ways to make the changes in your work life advantageous.

Another Half Dozen

7. Life is a continuing process, and there is no one point when you become magically grown up and have accomplished everything you wanted. If there was such a point, what would you do when you got there?

8. The nature of life is to constantly grow and change, and there is always more to learn and experience. Be wary of feeling as if you have reached the pinnacle of all of your experiences and accomplishments. If you become complacent, that point really will be the pinnacle of your life, since you won’t feel compelled to achieve even more.

9. You only have so much time and energy in your life. To feel fulfilled, you must choose what things you want to spend most of your time and energy doing. Choosing your priorities might take some soul-searching, or they might be obvious. Is family most important to you? Or, do you envision a time-consuming career? Whatever your interests, you must define your priorities in order to be productive. You can try to have a dozen different ‘priorities,’ but they will hardly be priorities, and you likely won’t pay sufficient attention to each. Decide what few things are important to you, and spend most of your time and energy supporting those priorities.

10. Never underestimate the power of your attitude and the effect it has on your perceptions. In general, people see what they want to see. If you’ve heard something negative about a person before you meet them, you are more likely to dislike that person right off the bat, regardless of anything they do or say. The same holds true for almost every situation in life: There are both beautiful and horrible things in the world. If you think positively, you’re more likely to notice the beautiful things. If you think negatively, you will pick up on all the not-so-great things that occur.

11. Many people seem to blame the mistakes in their life on some unseen force that constantly brings them down. They think they are just unlucky or that others are out to get them. For the most part, this is not the case. Almost everything that happens to us results from the choices we make, consciously or unconsciously. Not choosing becomes a choice in itself. Don’t ignore the tough choices you will have to make.

Blaming fate for your misfortunes leads nowhere; taking control of your life and the choices you face does. To empower yourself, recognize the choices in your life for what they are and consciously make the best decision you can. Something completely random will happen to you occasionally and you have no control over that. Still, realize that most of the things that happen to you don’t merely “happen to you.”

12. Making effective decisions can be difficult. The best decisions result from careful thought. However, don’t ignore your gut feeling about something. We have instincts for a reason, and such instincts don’t often lead you astray. Sometimes it is detrimental to overthink an issue; instead go with what ‘your little’ voice tells you. You’ll be surprised how much you don’t realize you already know. The subconscious is a powerful thing. When you can harness some of that power and put it to use in the conscious world, you will find that the things your little voice tells you are usually on target.

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