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A License to Have Children

Bringing a child into the world is a serious matter. If you’re shocked by the title of this article, do not pre-judge: read it the whole way through.

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If you’re shocked by the title of this article or have some preconceived notion about what it contains, do not pre-judge me or the article: read it the whole way through.

A growing number of individuals are beginning to think it’s time to require that people get a license before having children. If the idea sounds absurd or highly impractical to you, I can empathize, as I once felt the same way.

If there were but one or two sound reasons why a license for bringing a child into the world is a good idea, perhaps we could let the issue rest for another decade or so. Actually, there are dozens of compelling reasons, the top half-dozen outlined here, for our society to organize itself in a way it never has before and in a manner that was perhaps unthinkable a generation ago.

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Not Everyone Will

Before turning to the six big reasons for requiring a license to have children, let’s skip ahead to a time in which it is the law of the land.

As with licensing in other aspects of society, such as driving, not everyone who is supposed to get a license does so. Some people simply drive without one. Presumably, they proceed until they are caught for a traffic violation. Some people drive after their license has been suspended. Similarly, people will have children without the slightest regard for getting a license. As we’ll discuss, there are still compelling reasons for proceeding with the process.

Regardless of whether prospective child-rearing adults were to file for licenses, some people would always argue that requiring a license smacks of Big Brotherism.

“Haven’t people always conceived babies without a license?”
“Why do we need to impose this now?”
“Isn’t this one more bit of burdensome government regulation?”
“Isn’t this unconstitutional?”
“What agency will administer and oversee the process?”
“Will we be creating greater bureaucracy?”
“Why should the government get so involved in my private life?”

These points are worth considering; cause for alarm, however, is premature. There need not be one iota of Big Brotherism in the process. Licensing procedures don’t have to be designed so as to exclude anyone. Racism, favoritism, or any other “ism” need not gain any foothold here. No one plays God and decides who has children and who doesn’t. Rather, licensing, as argued here, would be available to anyone who applies. It could be as simple as registering to vote and the costs would be minimal if piggybacked on to an agency that already administers licenses.

Considering that many people will not seek to obtain the license, and that licensing itself will not be denied to anyone, why bother to have it at all? I’m glad you raised the question.

Six Reasons

1. Greater Lead Time
We are a nation where too many babies are born out of wedlock. Among African Americans, the figure is nearly 70%; among Native Americans, above 55%; among Hispanics, 52%; and among whites, 28%. In recent decades, we’ve witnessed dramatic increases in the numbers of teenage pregnancies, single mothers, abandoned or abused children, and even children murdered by their own parents.

Will licensing childbirth save even one child? Easily.

With the nine month average term of pregnancy, and nearly every mother able to determine if she’s pregnant at least seven months before term, the licensing process has a seven month lead time. Thus, each state or local jurisdiction’s social support and family services, as well as other community services, would have a greater capacity for population planning and dispensing of care, counseling, and other services. Pediatrics divisions of hospitals could plan more soundly to meet the needs of the surrounding community. So, too, could those who dispense critical services, such as birthing classes, educational videos, and counseling.

In short, licensing would increase the probability that more newborns have happy, successful early childhoods.

2. Restoring Sanctity to Birth
Licensing holds notable potential for restoring some semblance of sanctity to the birth process. Some parents seem to not realize that having a child is not something you do on a lark to get out of school, to cure boredom, or to better secure the affections of a partner. When the sanctity of childbirth across the broad swath of humanity is someday restored, the number of out-of-wedlock births will decline. Licensing is a means towards this end.

Ideally, a child comes into the world because a husband and wife are in love and wish to have a family. They give the matter careful consideration. They are cognizant of the need for years of endless sacrifices and financial outlays. Gary Becker, Ph.D., of the University of Chicago, was awarded the Nobel Prize for demonstrating that higher-income, educated married couples intentionally have fewer children than average so as to optimize the nurturing, education, and upbringing of each child.

The most successful and wisest parents among us actively choose to limit the size of their families.

Why should a society deign to offer indicators to anyone that bringing more children into the world, even one child, for whom you cannot adequately provide care, is socially acceptable or even tolerable? I wouldn’t even vaguely suggest that anyone be denied the opportunity to have children, even many children, independent of their educational, financial, or marital status. I am strongly against any notion of one person or group of people deciding who shall have children, how many, and who shall not. Rather, I argue for the maintenance of social standards which licensing would aid.

Having a license to bring a child into the world might help to sanctify both human birth experience and the ensuing human life experience. Currently, both pro-choice and pro-life advocacy groups need to re-examine and perhaps re-formulate their views regarding the sanctity of human life. While it can be argued at length that abortion is sometimes necessary, and that bringing an unwanted child into the world is itself morally reprehensible, abortion has never been an ideal answer to family planning.

While pro-life advocates appear to acknowledge the sanctity of birth, they have indicated less concern about the life a child brought into this world experiences. They need to focus additional concern on the next year to 80 years after a child is brought into the world.

3. More Accurate Census Count

Seemingly not as lofty as the issues discussed thus far, requiring people to have a license to bear children will be of enormous aid to the U. S. Bureau of the Census, all government agencies, and all institutions concerned with population and planning. This is no small benefit. Congress would be better able to allocate funds with population estimates that are closer to reality than are currently derived. Our institutions would be better able to meet the needs of citizens.

At all levels of government, better planning could be undertaken in the areas of education, health care, transportation, and housing.

Demographers, sociologists, and economists would have more robust primary data for the population projections and studies they undertake. In turn, leaders, administrators, boards of education, professors, students, and anyone else to whom population data is critical would be better informed and better served. (Note: not to say that licensees’ names would be available to commercial vendors. We all receive too many unsolicited offers now as it is.)

With vastly improved Census data, the long-term result would be improved prospects for childbirth and child-rearing among the masses, a desirable result for all aspects of society.

4. Better Child Support

Since the mid-1970s, an increasing number of children have been raised by a single parent – in most cases, the mother. Often, even when the mother and father are married when the child is conceived, the parents could be separated, temporarily or permanently, by the time the child arrives. When prospective parents understand that they’re required to get a license, there is an increased likelihood that, in the event of the demise of the relationship, the infant will still be afforded adequate resources during its childhood. Licensing would tend to decrease the incidence of cut-and-run fathers.

Some fathers who plan to be on hand when the child is born find that seven or eight months later, they don’t feel the same way. Having been part of a licensing procedure improves the odds, even if only slightly, that fathers will be on hand at the child’s birth and thereafter. If licensing resulted in a 1% decrease in the number of cut-and-run fathers, it would well be worth it.

5. With Greater Forethought

Lawyers must pass the state bar before practicing law. Some people get their driver’s licenses long before buying a car, or even driving regularly. Some potential parents – and it’s hoped that this is a large percentage – might seek to apply for a license before they attempt to conceive a child.

Having to get a license to get married is for the social good. Some people who are better off not married discover this after getting a marriage license but before heading down the aisle.

Any increase in the likelihood that prospective parents will give an added measure of forethought – or any forethought – to conceiving a child is for the social good.

In most states, when marriages are in trouble the partners can’t divorce at once; they have to endure a proscribed period of separation. In North Carolina, for example, 12 months of separate residency are required before the parents may file for divorce.

Similarly, a socially pervasive notion and legal requirement to get a license to bring a child into the world will, for some parents, serves as an incubation period. It would enable some parents to better determine whether having a baby is, in fact, what they wish to do at this time. Again, if even a tiny fraction of those who might have otherwise had a child end up not doing so, all parties benefit:

* our society that certainly doesn’t need another unwanted child,
* the parents who perhaps were not prepared to have child now, and
* yes, even the child who would have been.

If you doubt the last point, can you think of one person, if given the choice before birth, who would prefer to come into the world under any other circumstances other than being totally wanted, sufficiently loved, and adequately cared for?

6. Part of our Social Evolution

The tobacco growers in North Carolina are still scratching their heads and wondering why so many people are against what they grow. After all, their forefathers grew tobacco, and it’s always brought in healthy revenues for the state. Why upset the apple cart?

What was good for people 100 years or a generation ago isn’t what’s necessarily good for them today, or what’s good for society in general. If we were to keep things as they were, some people would be slaves. Some people wouldn’t have the vote. Fortunately, we overcame decades- and centuries-old dispositions and realized that we had to move forward. As our society becomes smoke-free, we all have the opportunity to witness social progress on a grand scale that some thought could not happen.

So, too, we each could witness social progress on a grand scale by requiring a license to have children.

Precious Lives

Each child who comes into this world is precious. Each one deserves the opportunity for an abundant life. It is not a civil liberty to have children any more than it’s a civil liberty to buy an automobile, practice medicine, or open a restaurant. Having a license to drive indicates to everyone that driving a motor vehicle is a serious affair. There are rules of the road to which we must all adhere.

Requiring a license of medical practitioners tells both physicians and their patients that the practice of medicine is a vital and serious profession, one not to be left in the hands of those who are untrained and unskilled. Even requiring restauranteurs to have a license before serving people signals that not merely anyone can serve anything to anybody. Standards exist when it comes to food preparation, sanitation, and cleanliness. All of these examples are regulated because of the connection with others – patients, diners, other cars. Having a child who will become a citizen, go to school, an interact with other for decades is the ultimate connection to others.

Raising children is perhaps the most important undertaking on earth. When having a license to have children is the law of the land, all parents – everyone – will receive a continual message that bringing a child into the world is an important and serious matter, a message which is not fully grasped by enough adults in our society.

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Jeff Davidson is the world's only holder of the title "The Work-Life Balance Expert®" as awarded by the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office. He is the premier thought leader on work-life balance, integration, and harmony. Jeff speaks to organizations that seek to enhance their overall productivity by improving the effectiveness of their people. He is the author of Breathing Space, Simpler Living, Dial it Down, and Everyday Project Management. Visit www.BreathingSpace.com for more information on Jeff's keynote speeches and seminars, including: Managing the Pace with Grace® * Achieving Work-Life Balance™ * Managing Information and Communication Overload®



 
 
 

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Six Dozen One-Sentence Tips on Reducing Stress

Under Biden, the nation’s stress level, collectively and individually, keeps ratcheting higher

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As we enter year three of the “Biden Administration,” enduring a clown who was installed, not elected, the nation’s stress level, collectively and individually, keeps ratcheting higher. As such, here are more than six dozen one-sentence tips on reducing stress for your edification:

Half the battle in alleviating stress is simply being aware of how you react to situations.
Let go of low level decisions.
It’s hard to feel stressed when you’re looking good.
You feel less stress if you allow yourself to be who you really are.

Take a break by helping someone else with their problems
To win the war on stress requires you only need small consistent steps.
Make your boss look good–he or she will appreciate it.
One good laugh can change your whole temperament.

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If a choice is of little consequence, let someone else choose.
Given enough time, people will usually apologize for blowing up at you undeservedly.
For most people, most of the time, most of the stress they encounter is self-induced.
Narrow your priorities and focus on what’s vital– the clock of your life is ticking.

Never make a promise you can’t keep.
If someone tells you to “take it easy,” heed the advice.
Give yourself quiet time throughout the day.
Sing in your car – it’s the best stress reducer when barreling down the highway.

Allow yourself five minutes to worry, then put the issues in the back of your mind.
Look for the best in others.
Screen your calls; you don’t have time to be available to everybody.
You always have the option of not answering the door.

Find ways to make yourself indispensable on the job.
Combat perfectionism because you are not perfect; nobody is.
It could always be worse; try to find the good points in everything.
Treat your children as full-fledged human beings.

Be true to yourself; don’t jump off a cliff simply because the lemmings are.
Build your life on a solid base, then don’t worry about the foundation.
Strive for objectivity.
Accept input and advice from trusted others.

Be conscious of what you say to yourself.
Compete with yourself, not others.
Challenge yourself to perform better than you have in the past.
Never mind the symptoms – get to the root causes of issues you face.

Avoid participating in the rumor mill.
Your instinct will often guide you – don’t be afraid to listen to it.
Don’t let juggling tasks become procrastination.
Take long, deep breaths whenever you choose to.

To feel more content be less concerned with what others think about you.
Move with a purpose.
Revenge is almost always counterproductive.
Delegate, delegate, delegate.

Open your mail over the wastebasket.
Laughter can lower your blood pressure.
When you’re under stress, sips of water can make you feel better.
For more energy, ignore the clock and go to bed when you’re tired.

You can’t use of all the promotions and bonus offers you encounter – so don’t worry about them.
Jumping into water changes your outlook.
Take responsibility for your mistakes rather than trying to assign blame.
The key to organization that works every time is grouping similar items together.

The hardest task is doing something different from the way you’ve always done it.
Let negative comments fall away like water off a duck’s back.
When you have trouble finding your way, step back and look at the big picture.
Look for the good in others and they’ll see the good in you.

Treat new employees with the same respect you show your CEO.
Let go of the excess and clutter in your life.
Avoid making decisions in anger.
Build enough slack into your schedule to deal with routine upsets.

Over-focusing on yourself leads to eye strain.
Step back and develop perspective – will you recall what’s bothering you, a month from now?
All else being equal, the better shape you’re in, the less stressed you’ll experience.
Learn from your mistakes or prepare to repeat them.

There is nothing so stressful as attempting to be someone you are not.
Be on the lookout for distraction-free sanctuaries, wherever they are.
Challenge yourself to make small improvements daily, and big ones will follow.
The best results often show up a day or two after you thought they would.

Regard each stressful experience as an opportunity to learn.
You cannot change the past but you can always learn from it.
Use the stairs instead of the elevator.
There’s always more to learn, so enjoy the process.

The natural state of human beings is alertness, health, and mental clarity.
Boil it down – get to the essence of things.
Acknowledge the accomplishments of others; everyone seeks acknowledgment.
Despite it all, maintain your ethical standards.

Give your complete and undivided attention to one task at a time.
Have fun with new ways of doing things – don’t let your habits become ingrained.
Practice the art of doing one thing at a time .

 

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Leftist ‘Journalists’ and Media Outlets: Quite Far From Impartial and Objective

The Left grants free passes to Joe Biden for his legions of treasonous, immoral, and illegal transgressions.

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Hollywood loves to portray leftist media outlets, newspapers, and journalists as fair and impartial. Indeed, there is no other way that these institutions and such individuals have been portrayed, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary. A recent example is the movie She Said, which is the latest in a long line of productions that extol the virtues of one of the nation’s oldest newspapers, the New York Times.

Starring Carey Mulligan, Zoe Kavan, Patricia Clarkson, Andre Braugher, and Ashley Judd, as herself, She Said is a story about the New York Times investigation of Harvey Weinstein. Some of the heartfelt testimony of the people the reporters interviewed are quite touching. Yet, the movie oversells the impact of the Times reporting. Investigative reporter Ronan Farrow had already published a major, professional, factual expose on Weinstein in the New Yorker.

Impartial, Caring, Concerned People?

She Said goes out of its way to present the New York Times editorial staff as carefully line-editing stories, and as impartial, caring, concerned people, interested only in truth and in getting articles right before publishing them. A major case in point is how veteran actor Andre Braugher portrays Dean Baquet, who served as the executive editor of Times from May 2014 to June 2022. Baquet is depicted as the voice of reason, proceeding with calm, cool clarity.

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In reality, Baquet is one of the major players on earth who kept the now thoroughly-debunked ‘Trump Collusion with Russia’ hoax alive and along with Adam Schiff did major damage to this country. For three years, and without evidence, pretty much daily the Times falsely claimed that Donald Trump’s presidential campaign colluded with Russia to steal the 2016 election.

The hopelessly biased Baquet decided to switch gears after the Mueller Report imploded. At Baquet’s direction, the Times would shift its focus of its coverage from the ‘Trump-Russia affair’ to the president’s ‘alleged racism.’

Not a Journalist, in Any Way

“We built our newsroom to cover one story, and we did it truly well,” Baquet said, rather proudly, apparently grossly unaware of the historically profound idiocy of his statement. “Now we have to regroup, and shift resources and emphasis to take on a different story.” A truthful story?

Through daily erroneous reporting, the ‘newspaper of record’ would now seek to expose ‘the racism’ of President Trump, which, to this day, it has not proven.

Baquet is not a journalist in any sense of the word; not even close. He is a shill of the Democrat party; what Vladimir Lenin termed a ‘useful idiot.’ Keep this in mind as you watch this otherwise engaging movie, and then ask yourself this: Where is the Times in relation to Joe Biden?

Baquet remained in his post for the first 17 months of the Biden administration. While the Times and the Left in general are perpetually eager to identify, dissect, catalog, and endlessly detail the faults of Donald Trump (real, imagined, or most concocted out of whole cloth), they deny or downplay a mountain of misdeeds by Joe Biden, as they also did with Barack Obama, Bill Clinton, and Hillary Clinton.

Lifetime Free Passes

Many pundits now exclaim that to block Biden from running in 2024, the Times and the leftist media machine in general have now turned on him. The current classified documents scandal aside, the Left grants free passes to Joe Biden for the legions of transgressions in his life. They overlook or downplay that he cheated in college, cheated in previous political campaigns, is a serial liar, and worse. All of this well-documented. They ignore, contort, or censor news that he has made legions of racist statements for his whole political career; e.g., “If you have a problem figuring out whether you’re for me or Trump, then you ain’t black.”

The Left belittles or ignores Tara Reade’s quite credible sexual assault accusation against Joe Biden, and that of seven other women, as well. They pretend that Creepy Uncle Joe does not have a fetish for sniffing little girls’ hair. They pretend that Biden does not constantly invade the personal space of females.

The Left ignores solid reporting and extensive documentation indicating the Biden family received millions of dollars via influence peddling to Communist China, as well as from Kazakhstan, Romania, Russia, and, above all, Ukraine. They will never acknowledge that Biden is an enabler for both his brother James and his son Hunter, and that Biden is credibly accused of selling out the U.S. They excuse the multiple batches of classified documents found recently in Biden’s domains.

Above it All

The Left especially avoids referring to any signs that Biden is suffering from ever-worsening dementia, despite his numerous mental lapses on the world stage.

In short, prior to the ever-growing classified documents scandal, leftist journalists and media outlets, constantly demonstrated how far they are from being impartial and objective. They had, defacto, deemed Democrat Joe Biden to be above the law, and now are actively undermining his continuing political aspirations.

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