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A Letter to Victims Ready to Become Proud Survivors

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Even Democrats are predicting that the November mid-terms will be a bloodbath for many of their candidates. Their programs and policies aren’t working. Their decisions are destroying our economy, our freedoms, and our future. Until now, all they needed to stay in office were repeated promises, unchecked by the mainstream media, to give the illusion of caring for you.

Unfortunately for President Biden, his failures are too numerous and visible to avoid. All you need to do is buy gas at your local gas station to know the cost of their policies. If you don’t have a car, try buying the food you need for your family at your local market. Watch illegal aliens stream into the country and be bused to cities across the country. Many are fine people, but by overwhelming our border they will be taking your jobs and requiring healthcare and welfare from local governments. Criminals are having their way in far too many big cities, and woke DAs are refusing to prosecute even repeat offenders. Do you support these policies?

Now, let’s get personal. Democrats have worked decades to train far too many Americans that they are “victims” of a biased system designed to keep them down. If you are a racial minority, they claim that there is “white privilege” and “systemic racism” that blocks your way. If you are a woman, they claim that men have conspired to keep you a second-class citizen subject to job and wage discrimination. The list of victim categories could take up the rest of this column. Certainly, there are racist incidents and tough obstacles every group faces, but there are many role models—people like you who have succeeded in spite of such biases. You don’t have to remain a victim.

Yes, there are benefits to being a victim. Caring people will elect politicians and give donations to non-profits committed to making your life easier. Why? Because they harbor an underlying belief—you are a victim who can’t succeed without their help. Make you mad to hear that? I hope it does. Democrats say they support you, but they certainly do not believe you are capable of taking responsibility for yourself or your family. To be elected, they need victims and enablers who believe creating government dependency is helping you.

No matter what type of “victim” you call yourself, you also pay a price living out that label. In fact, the label itself puts your focus on the very things that can keep you a victim. Instead of trying to find a job, you must put time into securing support. If you work too much, you will find your subsidies reduced. Such thinking and efforts keep you from learning that you can take responsibility for your own life and succeed.

If you are tired of settling for government crumbs that barely allow you to get by every month, start by talking to yourself differently. No matter what you have faced, you do not have to be defined by that experience. if you are still alive, you are not a lasting victim. You are a resourceful survivor. Be proud of your resilience in taking back your life.

Sandy Ritz said it best, “I believe that we need to reframe ‘disaster victims’ into ‘disaster survivors.’ The label of ‘victim’ connotes constant suffering. Being repeatedly addressed as a victim encourages feelings of helplessness and despondency. Not to mention shame. The term ‘survivor’ better describes someone who endures, lives through it, persists, and succeeds. Being a victim is passive–feeling powerless, with little faith or hope. Being a survivor is active–regaining control of their lives.”

Do you want to remain a victim or are you ready to be a survivor who finds a way to succeed?

If Republicans win big in November, they will work to limit government entitlements because they have a different way of “caring” for you. Like most Americans, they know there always needs to be short-term help available locally to help those facing unfortunate challenges. But long-term free government subsidies can trap you. Conservatives want you to become self-reliant and self-confident in your God-given gifts and ability to live your own American Dream. That’s right, this is the country where dreams still come true for those willing to work hard to achieve it. Think about those you know who have succeeded in spite of the biases they faced. Face the challenge. The best way to fight back against any racism is to succeed anyway. Learn from those who have done just that. Become one of them.

It won’t be easy. When you begin to trade dependence for personal responsibility, it may cost you. Your initial paychecks may not match what you can now get from government support. Progress will be gradual, and each step will require resolve. You believe you are worth more than minimum wage. Prove it! Pick where you want to work. Let them know you are willing to start where you are needed but that you expect to advance. Let your performance provide the evidence.

I mentored a single mother through that very challenge. Initially, working part time, she received a small raise that cut her benefits by more than the raise she received. She was disappointed but confidently said, “I’m not going back!” She stayed the course, and now has her own business training barbers and stylists how to get certified and succeed in their own businesses.

America’s amazing founding fathers envisioned a country where all citizens were guaranteed “the pursuit of happiness,” not happiness dumped in their laps. Benjamin Franklin reviled the welfare system of King George’s England. He wrote, “There [was] no country in the world in which the poor [were] more idle, dissolute, drunken, and insolent.” Franklin noted that by offering “a premium for the encouragement of idleness,” (the English system created) “an increase in poverty.” He preferred the American welfare model, whose purpose was “not making [the poor] easy in poverty, but leading or driving them out of it.” For over two centuries we have maintained a country where citizens were required to earn their American Dream.

Let me ask the question again, “Do you want to remain a victim or are you ready to be a resilient and resourceful survivor who finds a way to succeed?” Most American are ready to applaud and support your efforts to do just that no matter what your race, gender, or age!

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Dr. Terry Paulson is a PhD psychologist and author of The Optimism Advantage, They Shoot Managers Don't They, Speak Like a Pro, Meditations for the Trail, and The Dinner: The Political Conversation Your Mother Told You Never to Have. Since founding Paulson and Associates, Inc. in Agoura Hills, CA, Dr. Paulson has presented to such companies as IBM, 3M, Kaiser, Nationwide, SONY, Starbucks, Wal-Mart, and hundreds of hospitals, government agencies, and associations. Dr. Paulson is a past president of both the Global Speakers Federation and the National Speakers Association. He’s been inducted into NSA’s CPAE Speakers Hall of Fame, an honor given to less than 230 speakers worldwide. Dr. Paulson is a long-time conservative Republican who has spoken to numerous Republican groups. He currently is a regular op-ed columnist for townhall.com and politicrossing.com. Terry brings knowledge, tasteful humor, and a passion for conservative principles to every presentation. Dr. Paulson graduated with honors from UCLA and received his PhD in psychology and an MA in theology from Fuller Graduate School of Psychology in Pasadena, CA.



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Can the Party of “No” Beat the Party of “Free?”

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Have you noticed the rhetoric, “At least we have the House to stop some of Biden’s crazy plans!” The GOP’s keyword is “STOP.” Have you noticed that the Democrats have positioned themselves as the party of more “FREE” gifts from the government?

The GOP wants to cut budgets, cut government jobs, stop abortions, stop illegal aliens crossing the border, stop election cheating, stop student loan giveaways….and the list goes on. The Democrats have effectively positioned the GOP as the party of “NO!”

With a small margin in the House, Biden’s veto, and a likely Democrat Senate virtual majority, the Republicans face a difficult challenge. How do you shape a narrative that can win in 2024 and minimize the damage that the Democrats can do until then?

It starts by capitalizing on an issue that Republicans have been reticent to exploit-school choice. Have you noticed that the youngest voters went Democrat in every state? We have let the Democrats control public schools. Teacher unions have used their money and influence to ensure adequate funding. The result is clear-the youth under their influence have rejected the responsible values of their parents. The young lack confidence in their ability to make free-enterprise work, and they like government entitlements, rent relief, and promises of student loan forgiveness. In short, they have settled for the party of “FREE”-the Democrats!

School choice wasn’t even part of the Republican’s Commitment to America. Our leaders missed its role in Youngkin’s win in Virginia. It’s time to start becoming the party of “YES” to school choice. Many minority parents feel trapped in underperforming schools, and they want better schools for their children. Conservatives want an end to the indoctrination of liberal values that public schools provide. In short, it’s time to embrace school choice as a central focus in the GOP’s 2024 campaign.

There is no question that the issue of abortion also played a key role in impacting the Republican gains in the November election. The Democrats were able to turn fears over the Supreme Court reversal of Roe vs Wade into voter turnout in key races. It’s time to be the party of “YES” to reasonable limits on abortion and responsible support for adoption for unwanted children. Most Americans are supportive of reasonable limits on abortion. House Republicans could introduce federal legislation to make abortion after the first trimester illegal. Let the states take the role of considering even more restrictive measures. Make Democrats the party of “NO” to sane abortion limits.

Be the party of “YES” to government support for organizations that provide vulnerable women with support and material resources to help them consider both parenting and adoption. Democrats would have women believe that abortion is their only option. There are parents ready to adopt, and it can be a beautiful experience for all involved. It’s time to convince women to support life for their unborn child by providing loving options instead of trying to force the total elimination of abortion. Abortion disproportionately impacts minorities. To meet the needs of the future, America needs all the births our citizens can bring into this world.

Say “YES” to responsible citizenship-every citizen working to find a satisfying career in pursuit of their true American Dreams instead of settling for government dependence. The Republican message must be strong and clear-we belief in all Americans’ ability to gain their mojo and take back their future. There is no future in dependence-Getting “Free” entitlements are not “Freedom!” Let people know that America is still where the “pursuit of happiness” is not just something to justify a revolution. It is what has made America great and the envy of the world. It is by improving your skills and earning advancements or starting one’s own business that true dreams are achieved. No citizen should settle when she can soar.

Say “YES” to a secure border and legal immigration. America remains the land of opportunity, and we need immigrants. We don’t need millions of illegal immigrants unvetted and unprepared to add value to our country. Stand for completing the building of our Southern border wall and increasing our focus on expanding legal immigration. Republicans must not be against immigrants; we are only against welcoming illegal immigrants who do not honor our immigration process. Americans want a secure border, and they want to be known as a country that welcomes immigrants. Have the strength and wisdom to stand for both.

Say “YES” to law and order. Stand in support of law enforcement and accountability for criminals. Yes, we want fair treatment of all Americans, but citizens are tired of criminals having the upper hand. They want to feel safe in their homes and their businesses. We need DAs who will prosecute criminals instead of letting them go. There is a simple formula for the GOP to reflect most Americans-“Do the crime and do the time!”

Say “YES” to energy independence and an all of the above approach to energy policy. Instead of saying “No” to climate change paranoia, affirm the importance of developing all of our energy resources to be independent of foreign dependence. Capitalizing on all available energy options will also strike a blow at inflation, since the cost of energy impacts all facets of our economy.

If you want to beat the “Party of FREE,” we need to become the “Party of YES” to the things that Americans truly value. It’s time to begin preparing a narrative that can win in 2024. May it be so.

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Three Things Republicans MUST Do Now

The Republicans have a very important job to do!

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Now that the Republicans have taken the House, they have a few VERY important jobs to do. In this short five minute video, Chris Widener, Founder of PolitiCrossing, makes the case that there are three things the Republicans must do to be successful through 2024 and take back the Senate and the White House as well.

1. Investigate
2. Defund
3. Cast a Positive Vision for America

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