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A Huge Parental Opportunity: Making Changes Within

Remarkably, you have the opportunity at any time, to set goals unlike those you’ve ever set before

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Maybe you’ll never be the type of parent who comes home at the end of the day with boundless energy, all smiles and hugs and ready to play with your children until their bedtime. However, some room exists for you to expand your range of behaviors.

Leave the negativity outside and switch on an upbeat attitude you before walking in the door. Your family deserves that. Before you enter, look up, smile, and ask yourself what do you love about your family? Why are you lucky? Create the energy before you walk in the door. Then, engage them with your time, attention and affection.

If your goal is to be more responsive to each member of your family, you can undertake a variety of activities that will help.

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Below are many suggestions among thousands of possibilities. Although all of the suggestions and ideas for goal-setting presented are in relation to children, with a twist and a turn, they each could be applied to your spouse as well:

Applaud Accomplishments

If your child comes home from school with an ‘A’ on her spelling test or a piece of artwork she’s particularly proud of, seize the moment. Pick up the item, look it over carefully, ask questions about it, and show interest.

It’s not difficult to show interest in something once daily that your son or daughter brings to you. Indeed, it’s a worthwhile goal for many reasons. It tells your child that you’re interested in him or her, that what he or she does is important, and, most importantly, tells your child that the next time they’re taking a test or drawing a picture, they’ll want to do their best because after all, daddy will see it.

Listen to Their Favorite Music

You might like classical music or classic rock ‘n roll. Your kids might like pop, rap, hip-hop, or who knows what. Is it too much to simply sit with them for a few minutes and listen to two of their favorite songs, even if you’re secretly thinking, “How can anybody buy that, let alone record it in the first place?”

Have you ever wondered why teenagers in those jazzed-up cars play their music above the hundred-decibel level? They want others to hear what they’re hearing. Music, and specifically lyrics, has the ability to reach deep into the human psyche.

Listening to music together, much like eating together, is a form of bonding. People seem to want others to hear what they hear and enjoy what they enjoy. Usually this happens in the car. Devise a plan to alternate who has control of the music and motor along happily.

Include Them in Your Discussions

Suppose you’re talking with your spouse and your children are nearby. Do you exclude them from the conversation as if they don’t have a worthwhile opinion?

Once a week, what if you were to say, “Mark, don’t you feel that we XYZ…?” or, “Caitlin, do you think if we were to…?”

After the initial shock wears off, you’ll find that your children are pleased to be called upon. In essence, what you’re doing is respecting them on the interpersonal level. You’re saying that they’re full-fledged human beings, even if they are smaller than you, and that they have opinions and observations that count.

Drop in on After School Activities

No matter how busy you are, how demanding your job is, or how unreasonable your boss is, you can find a way to see a few practices and attend a few games your kids would love to have you see.

When you catch your child kicking the ball over everyone’s head, participating in a sing-along, or simply having fun with other kids, you do yourself and your child a big favor. You indicate to your kid that he or she is special enough for you to break your routine now and then and see what’s happening at school or with the other kids.

Visiting your child unannounced minimizes your child’s need to have you around every minute you’re at home and enables him or her to be more understanding when you’re traveling.

After all, if daddy or mommy drops in on me unexpectedly every now and then, they certainly love and care about me. This is especially effective: dropping by for lunch when they are in grade school, but make sure you sign in first and follow school procedures.

Maybe you’ll be the only parent who does this, but so what? Why not set as a goal to visit your child once each calendar month at an after school activity.

Say Yes A Little More Often

Kids ask to do so many things that for many parents it almost becomes automatic to say no.

Can I stay up later? No.

Can I have some ice cream? No.

Can I go across the street with my friends? No.

What’s the real reason behind some of these refusals? Is it fear for their safety or well-being? Do you think they’ll be corrupted if some family rule is bent on one particular evening? Or, are you exercising authority the same way your parents did?

Often, we forget that although our rules are conceived with good intentions, some of which could be rather arbitrary. I don’t have hard evidence that each of the rules creates a desired outcome, i.e., a goal we previously established for our family and specifically for our children. Saying ‘yes’ a little more often than usual has its place.

Set a goal of saying yes one more time per week than normally. This is not so hard to monitor, since you’ll have to ponder the situation for at least a few seconds, and realize that you’re about to say yes when your instinctive reaction was to say no.

If it helps, keep a running log of the times that you surprised your child with a yes. At the least, you’ll have ammunition for later when your child says you never say yes.

Seek Their Help

Do you have business and financial problems for which you think your children cannot be of much assistance? Think again for out of the mouths of babes sometimes come great ideas.

In his book, A Whack On the Side of the Head, Dr. Roger von Oeck contends that the solution to problems often comes by looking at a situation with creativity – taking a different view than you did before. Who better to help you than someone small who doesn’t know all of the givens of the situation?

When it comes to using technology, your son or daughter might have insight that you’ve never considered. How often have you asked your children for some type of support? Could you ask this of them at least once a week? If you’re self-employed, you can lawfully hire them at a young age, pay them, and claim the labor expense.

Go Ahead and Ask

Regardless of whether or not you believe your children can help you with a particular issue, go ahead and ask them. You might be pleasantly surprised by what you discover.

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Jeff Davidson is the world's only holder of the title "The Work-Life Balance Expert®" as awarded by the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office. He is the premier thought leader on work-life balance, integration, and harmony. Jeff speaks to organizations that seek to enhance their overall productivity by improving the effectiveness of their people. He is the author of Breathing Space, Simpler Living, Dial it Down, and Everyday Project Management. Visit www.BreathingSpace.com for more information on Jeff's keynote speeches and seminars, including: Managing the Pace with Grace® * Achieving Work-Life Balance™ * Managing Information and Communication Overload®



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Spend Less, Owe Less, Live More

If you spend less than you take in, inexorably your debt will decrease

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Society conditions us to consume more than we need and to spend more than we make. However, this kind of lifestyle is a recipe for disaster. Taking back control of your finances can help you free up time and make you feel more in control of your life more of the time.

Think back to your high school and college history classes: can you recall a nation in the history of the earth that accumulated huge deficits over a prolonged period of time, lacked a concerted effort towards reducing these deficits, yet was able to sustain economic prosperity for its citizens?

Can a nation, in debt for trillions annually, or a person – namely you – consistently run up huge deficits and expect no consequences?  For decades, tens of millions of Americans have accumulated personal debt via credit cards, loans, and other forms of financing. It’s likely that you have some financial debts.

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Subtle Servitude

Sustained deficit spending eventually erodes your ability to prepare for the future, and worse, to capitalize on current opportunities. The more you owe, the more enslaved you are! In Consumerism, Dr. Judith Schor notes that you’ve likely been taught to consume more than you need.

Right now, how would it feel if all your credit cards were paid off? How would it feel if you paid your monthly rent or mortgage several months in advance? How would it feel if your car loan was paid off? How would it feel if you were actually able to pay some of your utility bills for months in advance? For most people it would feel great. You’d feel in control of your time.

We all know the arguments about losing the (minuscule) amount of interest you could have earned if you let your money sit in the bank instead of paying the electric bill three months in advance. Ah, but wait. A month after you’ve paid your electric bill three months in advance, you receive the next month’s bill. Guess what? It shows that you have a huge credit and that nothing is due – you’ll smile when you see these kinds of bills!

A Moratorium on Spending

To reduce your personal debts, place a moratorium on optional spending, regardless of what items entice you, until your credit cards have zero balances.

Paying for material things which you don’t need, and certainly don’t save your time, might be satisfying, but ultimately can be draining.

Here are some strategies and tactics for controlling your checkbook, and hence reclaiming your life:

1. Write out checks to pay bills in advance of their due dates. Then, keep an advance file with a folder for each day of the month. Place the check in a sealed, addressed, and stamped envelope. Then put the envelope in the folder of the day it’s to be mailed. This way the money is allocated in advance in your checkbook, and your bills are paid on time. If your checking account pays interest, you don’t lose interest.

2. Occasionally, overpay the balance on your continuing accounts, or pay early. This gives you the aforementioned psychological boost when you see a credit on your next statement, and gives you a good reputation with your creditors, which is handy!

3. Keep a stick-on note in your checkbook for an immediate reference that lists what’s coming in this month and what needs to be paid. This provides you with a running mini-cash flow list to which you can refer at will. Update it weekly, or daily, if needed.

4. Review old checkbooks and see what you paid to whom for what. Do the same thing with your monthly credit card statements. Put a red mark next to all those expenditures that you didn’t need to make, or that you could have done without after further consideration.

5. Now, considering expenditures on the horizon, which ones can you do without?

Spend Less, Save More

As author Roger Dawson says, “It doesn’t matter how much money you’re making; if you’re spending more than you take in each month, you’re headed for trouble.” If you spend less than you take in, your debt will decrease, even if only a little at a time, and one day perhaps  disappear.

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The Disney Corporation and its Bizarre, Massive Turn to the Left

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Disney World is not a magic kingdom, it’s a tragic kingdom.

The Disney Corporation has taken a sharp, bizarre turn to the left: its corporate officers support the sexualizing of 5-year olds, prompting Florida Governor Ron DeSantis to reign in this corporation-gone-haywire.

DeSantis recently said, “The state of Florida is governed according to the interests of the people, not according to the political posturing of corporate executives in California. We will never allow corporate influence to repeal the substantive rights of parents in our state.”

Not the That Disney I knew

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Disney World, in Orlando, opened the year I turned 20. The next year, fifteen of us from college made the 20-hour drive from Connecticut in a three-car caravan. Years later, in my 40s and 50s, I was booked at various resort centers in Disney World for conventions and conferences as a professional speaker. Each visit was always a treat.

As have legions of others, I have soured on Disney World. They have been coerced, intimidated, or brainwashed by the Left. The pronouncements of their executives and spokespersons are disheartening. Disney World has joined the side of extremism, making statements in support of de-funding police, ‘canceling’ selected individuals, and the rewriting of American history.

In January 2021, Disney decided to halt all political donations to lawmakers who objected to the electoral certification of Joe Biden on January 6th. Yet, Democrat lawmakers similarly objected in the elections of 2000, 2004, and 2016, about which Disney was silent.

When I learned of this action, I wrote to a Disney official:

Greetings, Ms. Mucha,

           The Art of the Steal is a comprehensive analysis, in 32 illustrated pages, that illuminates the massive 2020 election fraud…if you’re curious enough to read it. Perhaps Disney will take an active role in publicly acknowledging the myriad issues it raises. The world is watching.

           Someday, may our representative republic recover from this historic theft, and may Disney be on the authentic side of history.

I didn’t expect a reply, didn’t receive one, and doubt that my words had any impact. Still, one has to make the effort.

Applauders of Mayhem

In previous years, Disney has made questionable statements that should be of concern. At one point, they praised Snoop Dogg (real name Cordozar Calvin Broadus Jr.), for being an ‘American icon,’ something on par with ‘Mickey Mouse.’

Who was the genius in the Disney PR department who issued such a statement? One merely has to review Snoop’s rap sheet to see his involvement in crime after crime for decades (this just a partial recap):

Cordozar Calvin Broadus Jr., born October 20, 1971, in Long Beach, California.

1990 – Convicted of felony drug possession and possession for sale (cocaine) and being a member of Los Angeles gang the Crips.

1994, 1995 – fought charges pending in an attempted murder case.

1997 – Plead guilty to assault charges and promised to make public service announcements against violence in exchange for three years probation.

2003 – Implicated in a civil rape case from when he guest-hosted the Jimmy Kimmel Live TV show. One month before the 36-year-old plaintiff filed her suit, Snoop sued her accusing her of extortion. Both suits were dropped.

2006 – Banned from the U.K. and British Airways after a fracas at London’s Heathrow Airport.

2006 – Detained at John Wayne Airport in Orange County, California by airport security because his carry-on bag contained a dangerous weapon.

2006 – Arrested in October at Bob Hope Airport in Burbank, California in possession of marijuana and a firearm.

2006 – Arrested in November for possession of marijuana and a firearm after performing on The Tonight Show.

2007 – Avoided a jail term on gun and drug charges in April but sentenced to five years probation and 800 hours community service.

Police and airport officials obviously can’t be everywhere, so fill in the blanks as to what else Broadus, this exemplary icon, has done.

No Moral High Ground

Apparently, Disney seeks to display some type of moral superiority and exalt family values mainly to attract more patrons. As word spreads about how unfamily-friendly and unpatriotic the corporation happens to be, perhaps they’ll get hit in the pocketbook. Maybe fewer people will visit when they realize that Disney World is in league with those who seek to destroy America, as we know it.

Walt Disney must be rolling over in his grave. Roy Disney would be astounded at the changes within his brother’s beloved company.

It’s a sad situation when one of America’s showcase companies caves to the Left, but that is the sign of our times. Until such companies, their top officers, and their boards of directors show some spine, America will be held hostage by Leftist lunacy, smokescreens, and propaganda.

Disney World is not a magic kingdom, it’s a tragic kingdom.

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